LGBTQ* News We Are Following Right Now
Move On Petition for Damien
By Torrey Moorman (Contact)
To be delivered to: Barbara Rothweiler, Ph.D. Principal, Principal, https://www.saintpiusx.com/
St. Pius High School administration is refusing to recognize Damian’s gender identity, even though all his classmates, teachers, and family know Damian as a male. The administration says that because he has “female” marked on his birth certificate — despite the fact that he is now legally Damian and not Brandi — he still must walk in a girl’s cap and gown for graduation.
Shout out post to fellow mods still in Virginia(!):
Ryan will be at VaTech on April 4th. -Rebecca
If you attend Rutgers University - Camden. I will be sharing my transition story and speaking on the topics of sexuality and gender on March 28th from 5 to 7 pm with a meet and greet and book signing after!
Not a Rutgers-Camden Student? Here is a list of other Universities I’ll be visiting/speaking at this spring:
- Northwest Missouri State University - March 15
- University of New England - March 27
- Iowa’s Safe School Coalition LGBTQ Youth Conference - April 3
- Virginia Tech - April 4
- University of South Dakota - April 9
- Drake University - April 16
- Equality Forum, Philadelphia - May 2
You can find out more on my website!
2 years on T update!
- Hair loss
- Muscle growth
- More facial hair and body hair growth
- Fat disputation on hips, has no butt..
Mood is hard to say because Of the events that has happened a few months ago. Most days I have anxiety and feel tired other days I feel relaxed and calm, never angry or had raged out. My appetite is still the same I still eat a lot but doesn’t seem to gain anything from it and is loosing weight. Face and body acne has gone down A LOT from last year. Voice still dropping slightly.
Weight: 108 hight: 5’5
70mg of T every 10 day.
That’s all I can think of, I will do a better face comparison soon and maybe a voice change video :O
LGBTQ* Trans* Deviant Art and Artists We Wanted To Share
LGBTQ* Articles and Advice (You May Have Missed)
You’re a savvy queer who’s been eyeing a hot trans guy at the monthly dance parties, or the regular cutie you see at all the fundraising events, but how you make the approach? We here at Early to Bed have had many customers ask for our help in flirting and consummating their crush on an FTM. If you can’t make it to the shop in person, lucky you, here are seven tips to help you up your seduction game and keep you from inadvertently offending (or just turning off) your date.
1. Don’t use the word “tranny.”
RuPaul loves it, but you’re not on a date with RuPaul. The word is highly charged in the trans community because of its hurtful use in the past, and even if your date uses it to describe themselves or others, chances are when you say the word, you’ll sound awkward at best, or a like an insensitive jerk at worst.
2. If you mess up pronouns, apologize briefly and move on.
Everyone makes verbal gaffes. Quickly say you’re sorry and keep the conversation flowing. People mess up names and pronouns of non-trans folks, too; our brains are not perfect, so don’t make it a huge deal and draw more attention to it. Then, make a concerted effort to not mess up pronouns again. If you keep saying the wrong pronoun, though, consider that maybe you aren’t ready to be on the date.
3. Do your own research beforehand.
How do you take the hormones? What types of surgery are available? What’s this tight nylon shirt you’re wearing? What does “non-op transsexual” mean? All these questions can be answered by the Internet, so don’t treat your date like a private googling session (unless you’re supergeeks and that’s part of a fantasy scenario). Educating yourself on these topics will keep your curiosity from accidentally spilling all over your date, and it will also make conversation easier to follow on your end if he does mention things about his transition or past. However…
4. Don’t bring up trans stuff too much.
With all your newfound knowledge, you might now be tempted to flaunt it, but don’t. Play it cool. As a rule, think of it as a 3-to-1 ratio: you should only bring it up once for every three times your date does. Now, if your date is really, really into discussing social construction of gender, queer critical theory, trans politics, etc., then go for it; it’s good to talk excitedly about topics that your date likes to talk excitedly about. But if he’s not fixated on the topic, then you shouldn’t be, either.
5. Don’t tell anecdotes about other dates with trans men (or about your trans friends).
Some trans people like knowing that their date has been to the rodeo before, so to speak. Others think it’s an immediate red flag that you’re a fetishist. Mentioning it once casually in the proper context is OK, but don’t instigate the story out of nowhere. Going on and on about your trans friend(s) is meaningless, too; we want to see your behaviors in action, not get a list of your personal references.
6. Don’t ask us our birth names.
We went through a lot of trouble to train and educate our friends and families to switch to a new name, plus we probably paid court fees to do it legally. Your curiosity is normal, but the question itself puts us in an uncomfortable place of having to remember our past and talk about it with a near stranger who hasn’t properly taken the time to get to know us in the present. It’s also kind of a boner-killer to have someone gawking at how we don’t look like a Heather anymore.
7. Do give flirty compliments.
Unless you have X-ray vision, the majority of what makes someone attractive to you is not what’s between their legs or inside their pants. More likely it’s things like the way they move across the room, a grin, how they hold a glass, a look in their eyes, the way they tell a story — all characteristics that have no gender markers whatsoever. Talk about those things as turn-ons. Use gender-neutral adjectives (“sexy,” “smoldering,” “attractive,” “compelling,” “hot”) and maybe throw in “cute,” “adorable,” or “handsome.” Avoid adjectives that tend to be gendered in either direction — too feminine and it can feel uncomfortable, but too masculine and it can sound like you’re overcompensating. (The same goes for excessive dude-bro speak.)
Raymond is an instructor at Early to Bed, a feminist sex toy shop in Chicago. Women-owned and oriented, boy- and trans-friendly, the store has a relaxed atmosphere that is different from your average sex shop. Their brother site, Early to Rise, caters to men seeking sex toy advice and honest product reviews.
LGBTQ* Grants (and Deadlines) You Should Know
Trans Justice Funding Project
We aim to make this process as accessible as possible, so please let us know about any other needs you have and we will do our best to meet them. An audio version of the application is available on request.
Applications are due on February 15th, 2013 by midnight, Eastern Standard Time. Decisions will be made in mid-March 2013. So you can expect to hear back from us by April 1st and, if you are funded, to get your check soon after that.
How will the funding process work?
A panel of 7 activists from across the country will come together for a series of conference calls and a weekend-long in-person meeting to review all the applications and decide on the grantees. You can read more about our the panel members at transjusticefundingproject.org/who-we-are/. While we are very grateful to all the contributors making this project possible, funding decisions will be made solely by this community-led panel.
What does trans justice mean?
We use the term “trans” in its most inclusive sense, as an umbrella term encompassing transsexual, transgender, genderqueer, Two-Spirit people, and more generally, anyone whose gender identity or gender expression is non conforming and/or different from their birth-assigned sex.
We see trans justice as a commitment to creating a world where trans and gender non-conforming individuals and communities have the freedom to self-define and express their genders without fear of violence, discrimination, or harassment. A world where we recognize and honor that our communities have knowledge and expertise in matters relating to our own lives that no one else will have.
(Thank you to Leeway Foundation and Ryan Li for the adapted definitions above)
The funding panel will be distributing a total of $50,000. While it’s unlikely that grants will be smaller than $1,000 or larger than $5,000, the final decisions about grant size will be made when the panel meets to review all the applications.
Is multi-year support available?
Right now, this is only a one year project to distribute $50,000. In a way, it’s an experiment. We’re not sure what’s next, but no matter what, we want to do our best to get the word out about our grantees to as many donors as possible and to provide an example of an alternative, community-led funding model to those who want to support trans justice.
What we fund:
What we don’t fund:
We are committed to supporting groups that:
Just email us at firstname.lastname@example.org about any questions. We’ll get back to you as fast as we can! (Though please keep in mind that it’s just the two of us putting this together in our spare time, so it might be a little slower than we’d like.)
Gabriel Foster and Karen Pittelman, co-organizers
For more information visit TransJusticeFundingProject.org
LGBTQ* Graphic Novels to Keep on Your Radar
(AKA, LGBTQ* graphic novels the KNOWhomo team is currently reading)
TRANSPOSES by Dylan Edwards
“Transposes will teach you something about what it means to have a body and to feel desire. About what it means, in short, to be human.” - Alison Bechdel From the foreword by the New York Times bestselling author of FUN HOME and ARE YOU MY MOTHER
TRANSPOSES separates gender from sexuality and illustrates six fascinating true stories of transgender men who also happen to be queer. The result is a laugh-out-loud, funny, heartbreaking, challenging, inventive, informative, and invites the reader to explore what truly makes a man a man.
Interested? Read some of the first pages HERE.
Note from Rebecca:
I ordered TRANSPOSES after running into it time and time again online. (I am an avid comic book and graphic novel reader.) I ordered it from NORTHWEST PRESS and had it in my hands within 2-3 days (at regular shipping price). If you are unfamiliar with NORTHWEST PRESS and enjoy queer graphic expression and fiction, I highly recommend spending some time on their site.
LGBTQ* Stories of High School Sweethearts You May Have Missed
(trigger warning: language, definitions, confusion of sex and gender terms in article)
How a pageant princess and colonel’s son fell in love…
To the casual observer, this young couple look just like any other teenagers in love.
But pretty Katie Hill and her boyfriend Arin Andrews share a unique bond - they were both born as the opposite sex.
Katie, 18, spent the first 15 years of her life as Luke, son of a Marine colonel, while Arin, 16, was born a girl called Emerald who excelled at ballet dancing and won beauty contests.
Both struggled with their sexuality all through their childhoods and were teased and bullied but their lives were changed when they both began hormone therapy and later met at a trans support group in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and instantly fell in love.
Katie said: ‘All I saw was a handsome guy. We’re perfect for each other because we both had the same troubles growing up.
‘We’re both size five, so we even swap our old clothes our mum’s bought us but we hated.
‘We look so convincing as a boy and a girl, nobody even notices now. We secretly feel so good about it because it’s the way we’ve always wanted to be seen.’
LGBTQ* History You Might Have Missed in Art Class
Peter Gluck (1895-1978)
Gluck, an English trans* artist, born a wealthy and close-knit Jewish family, was a noted floral painter. His most well known work came later in life with Medallion, which featured Gluck and his long time partner of 34 years, Edith Shackleton Heald. Gluck also painted the Vigo Press cover of Well of Loneliness.
LGBTQ* Voices You Should Know
Ryan Sallans, trans* activist/educator/author, speaking at Memorial Park in Nebraska.
Check out Ryan’s book SECOND SON
Check out Ryan’s TUMBLR
LGBTQ* YouTube Videos You May Have Missed
Stephen Answers 7 Questions
Stephen Ira (mattachinereview.tumblr.com)
By the way, he is a fellow Nerdfighter!
TRANS* Tumblrs You Should Know
In honor of the 11th Annual Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference, here are some of the spotlighted and featured FTM blogs on tumblr and many of the people attending this year’s conference.
Personal Note: Trans* representation is NOT limited to these blogs and the above blogs do focus on FTM trans men. If you know of other trans* tumblrs (safe for work), please pass them my way. Thanks, -Rebecca
LBGTQ* Sundance Channel and Logo Documentaries You Should Know
Transgeneration (2006) Across America, transgender college students are visible and political, and bravely challenge the status quo. In this eight-part original documentary series, filmmaker Jeremy Simmons follows a year in the lives of four transgender students as they define who they are and take control of their gender identity. Gabbie and Raci (born male, but now living as women) and Lucas and T.J. (born female, but now living as men) attend different campuses and come from varied social backgrounds, yet are all about to experience a pivotal moment in their lives. (<— text from Sundance Channel)
Youtube user Jonesing82’s links to the entire series can be found HERE.
LGBTQ* Graphic and Comic Artists
ROOSTER TAILS Takes On Binders
LGBTQ* Trans* Biographies, Autobiographies, and Memoirs You Should Know
(A Few Of) The Personal Stories of the Trans* Community
1. The First Man-Made Man: The Story of Two Sex Changes, One Love Affair, and a Twentieth-Century Medical Revolutionby Pagan Kennedy
2. A Strange Sort of Being: The Transgender Life of Lucy Ann/ Joseph Israel Lobdell, 1820-1912 by Bambi L. Lobdell
3. Suits Me: The Double Life of Billy Tipton by Diane Wood Middlebrook
4. Nina Here Nor There by Nick Krieger
5. Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green
6. Second Son: Transitioning Toward My Destiny, Love, and Life by Ryan Sallans
7. Christine Jorgensen: A Personal Autobiography by Christine Jorgensen
8. A Queer and Pleasant Danger: The true story of a nice Jewish boy who joins the Church of Scientology and leaves twelve years later to become the lovely lady she is todayby Kate Bornstein
9. She’s Not There by Jennifer Finney Boylan
10. Transition: The Story of How I Became A Man by Chaz Bono