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LGBTQ* Posts that Made Us Smile

Source: Orientation Police by Bill Roundy



(Source: ryan-on-bass)

Jun 4
Know Your LGBTQ* Rights!
The thing about living in the United States is: not everything is mandated by the federal government. Some laws are left up to individual states and their constituents.  Unfortunately, this means that not all states provide legal protection for you as an LGBTQ*-identified employee. In fact, in several US states, workplace rights and protections vary by county, or even by city. How frustrating and confusing is that? Have you checked on your rights lately?

States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination,  and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation:
Delaware, Maryland, New Hampshire, New York, parts of Wisconsin.
States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination,  and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation AND your gender identity:
California, Colorado, Connecticut, the District of Colombia, Hawaii, Illinois, Iowa, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Jersey, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington.
States where it is currently legal to discriminate based on an LGBTQ*-identity:
Alabama
, Alaska
, Arizona
, Arkansas
, Florida
, Georgia
, Idaho
, Indiana
, Kansas
, Kentucky
, Louisiana
, Michigan
, Mississippi
, Missouri
, Montana
, Nebraska
, North Carolina
, North Dakota
, Ohio, 
Oklahoma
, Pennsylvania
, South Carolina
, South Dakota
, Tennessee
, Texas
, Utah
, Virginia
, West Virginia
, Wyoming.
Note From Ruth Elizabeth: Feeling as sick to your stomach as I am? Send a letter to your congress-person and tell them you want them to pass ENDA (the Employment Non-Discrimination Act). This would provide federal protection for discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, so you can stop googling your workplace rights every time you move cities, counties, or states.

More info and sources: here and here and here and here.

Know Your LGBTQ* Rights!

The thing about living in the United States is: not everything is mandated by the federal government. Some laws are left up to individual states and their constituents.  Unfortunately, this means that not all states provide legal protection for you as an LGBTQ*-identified employee. In fact, in several US states, workplace rights and protections vary by county, or even by city. How frustrating and confusing is that? Have you checked on your rights lately?

States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination,  and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation:

Delaware, Maryland, New Hampshire, New York, parts of Wisconsin.

States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination,  and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation AND your gender identity:

California, Colorado, Connecticut, the District of Colombia, Hawaii, Illinois, Iowa, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Jersey, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington.

States where it is currently legal to discriminate based on an LGBTQ*-identity:

Alabama
, Alaska
, Arizona
, Arkansas
, Florida
, Georgia
, Idaho
, Indiana
, Kansas
, Kentucky
, Louisiana
, Michigan
, Mississippi
, Missouri
, Montana
, Nebraska
, North Carolina
, North Dakota
, Ohio, 
Oklahoma
, Pennsylvania
, South Carolina
, South Dakota
, Tennessee
, Texas
, Utah
, Virginia
, West Virginia
, Wyoming.

Note From Ruth Elizabeth: Feeling as sick to your stomach as I am? Send a letter to your congress-person and tell them you want them to pass ENDA (the Employment Non-Discrimination Act). This would provide federal protection for discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, so you can stop googling your workplace rights every time you move cities, counties, or states.

More info and sources: here and here and here and here.

Scarleteen’s (Sexual) Orientation for Everyone

(source)

Sexual orientation: The term sexual orientation is generally used to describe how a person — if they do — finds themselves sexually, affectionally, and/or romantically attracted to other people in regards to the gender of those people; which gender or genders of person a given person can be in love with and wants to have any kind of sex with. There may be varying degrees of those things or experiences of those things being more separate than unified: for instance, a person may be very sexually attracted to men, but more emotionally attracted to women or someone may find that romantic attraction for them, to anyone, usually plays a bigger part than sexual attraction.

 

  • Heterosexual (or straight): Someone who is solely or primarily (mostly) attracted to people of a different sex or gender than them, such as men who are attracted to women.
  • Queer: Generally, queer is an umbrella term that describes a person who is not heterosexual. Someone may use the term queer as the way they identify, period, or may use terms like those below and also identify as queer.
  • Homosexual (or gay, lesbian, same-gender loving, MSM or WSW): Someone who is solely or primarily (mostly) attracted to people of the same or similar sex or gender as them, such as men who are attracted to men.
  • Bisexual: Someone who finds they can feel attraction to people of more than one gender, be that to both men and women, to people of all gender identities, or who doesn’t experience gender as a major factor in their attractions, period.
  • Pansexual or Omnisexual: Someone who can feel attraction to people of all gender identities, or who doesn’t experience gender as a major factor in their attractions, period.
  • Asexual (or nonsexual): Someone who has not experienced or does not experience sexual attraction to others or does not have a desire to be sexual with partners. In other words, someone who is not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender.
  • Apasexual: Someone who feels a lack of significant interest in sex, or feels apathetic about sex in general.
  • Androsexual, gynesexual, ambisexual or skoliosexual: These terms are a different framework for orientation than the framework of heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality, one that can be more inclusive and expansive than hetero/homo/bi and doesn’t require the gender of the person who is feeling the attraction to be defined in a given way, or at all. Androsexuality refers to someone who is attracted to masculinity, gynesexuality to femininity; am ambisexual is someone who can be attracted to both or either, or experiences gender as a non-issue, and a skolisexual, someone who is attracted to non-cisgender or non-binary people in general. Asexuality is also included in this framework. This framework doesn’t make rigid asssumptions about the other person’s gender, either: a person can be attracted to masculinity in women or femininity in men, for example.
  • Pomosexual: Someone who rejects or does not identify as or with any categorization of sexual orientation as a form of identity. Pomosexual is basically a term for someone who is of the “labels are for soup cans” camp regarding orientation.
  • Questioning (or -curious or -flexible, like bicurious or heteroflexible): Someone who isn’t sure right now, or has never been, of what their sexual orientation is; who is in the process of figuring that out. Terms like bicurious or whatever-flexible usually are used by someone who feels an interest or curiosity about a given gender of people sexually, but is still in the process of questioning. A term like that is sometimes also used to describe an interest in people of a given gender that’s there, but not felt as so central to be part of someone’s overall orientation.

For more information, check out Scarleteen’s The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone

KNOWhomo Personal Responses:

KNOWhomo’s response to the frequently asked question, “I identify as bisexual or pansexual, but my current partner has the opposite gender identify as myself. My friends are saying that means I’m not queer. Is that true?”

For the full video response (and pep talk?!) click here.

Personal Note:
It is important to remember that no one can define your sexuality except you. 
It is even more important that you give yourself permission to (safely) explore and mature in your definition/the terms you use to describe yourself.
We are not finite mathematical equations with one definite answer. We are constantly going to move about on our own graphs and experience life, people and attraction differently.
No matter what, know that you are loved.
Remember this when someone else comes to you unsure how to speak their truths.

Keep On, Keeping On
-Rebecca

Personal Note:

It is important to remember that no one can define your sexuality except you. 

It is even more important that you give yourself permission to (safely) explore and mature in your definition/the terms you use to describe yourself.

We are not finite mathematical equations with one definite answer. We are constantly going to move about on our own graphs and experience life, people and attraction differently.

No matter what, know that you are loved.

Remember this when someone else comes to you unsure how to speak their truths.



Keep On, Keeping On

-Rebecca

Sexual Orientation Subculture Flags

  1. Lipstick Lesbian Flag
  2. Leather Pride Flag
  3. Bear Pride Flag (previous post on Bear Pride)
Aug 6
LGBTQ* History Infographic
Queer History (1200s-2005) —
Note: Focus heavy on the UK, many US laws/history not represented
From JobCenterPlus
To view graphic X4 larger, click on the KNOWhomo.tumblr page, click on the notes and then click graphic. It will open in a new window. Click graphic to change sizes.

LGBTQ* History Infographic

Queer History (1200s-2005) —

Note: Focus heavy on the UK, many US laws/history not represented

From JobCenterPlus

To view graphic X4 larger, click on the KNOWhomo.tumblr page, click on the notes and then click graphic. It will open in a new window. Click graphic to change sizes.

LBGTQ* Charts and Graphs
Androphilia: attraction to males/men
Gynephilia: attraction to females/women
Sexual Orientation / Person’s Assigned Sex or Gender Identity


*Please note, I did not create this chart. I was also unable to find a chart which read Gender Identity instead of “sex.” This is not intended to be a cis-privileged post, nor to deny anyone’s sexual orientation based on their assigned sex at birth.

LBGTQ* Charts and Graphs

Androphilia: attraction to males/men

Gynephilia: attraction to females/women

Sexual Orientation / Person’s Assigned Sex or Gender Identity



*Please note, I did not create this chart. I was also unable to find a chart which read Gender Identity instead of “sex.” This is not intended to be a cis-privileged post, nor to deny anyone’s sexual orientation based on their assigned sex at birth.

Feb 3
LGBTQ* Charts, Diagrams and Breaking it Down
Venn Diagram Reference for Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and Biological Sex
(from Transgender Allies Blogspot)

LGBTQ* Charts, Diagrams and Breaking it Down

Venn Diagram Reference for Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and Biological Sex

(from Transgender Allies Blogspot)

Nov 1
LGBTQ* Expression Through Photography and Coming Out Stories
"Ace" Scout’s Honor 
(Text from Ace Of Butterflies)
My Coming Out Story
I’m asexual. And I’m perfectly OK. I’m healthy. And I’m sane. And I live a happy life. Yet there is a problem with being asexual: As asexuality is known only poorly, it is often misunderstood and very often misjudged. And it is so diverse, so different from person to person, so wide and so fluid (just as any other sexual orientation) that taking a single testimonial (even if I’d love to give mine!) as a definition would lead to a constrained generalization.
So, yes, I will tell you how I have experienced asexuality.
-Let me say that I am asexual because of three main reasons:
1) I am not heterosexual2) I am not homosexual3) I am not bisexual
I am 4) Asexual. Asexuality is a sexual orientation… that defines the lack of sexual attraction (although I don’t feel I «lack» anything).
I do, however, have a romantic orientation: I’m hetero-romantic… asexual. I fall in love with men, but I have never, ever, experienced any kind of sexual attraction (the desire to engage in sexual activity) to men. Nor to women. Nor to both. This doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy sex, or that I despise it. I just have never felt the need for it. And that is OK.
(for the full story, click HERE)
(by Deviant Artist: CaptainEvie)

LGBTQ* Expression Through Photography and Coming Out Stories

"Ace" Scout’s Honor 

(Text from Ace Of Butterflies)

My Coming Out Story

I’m asexual. And I’m perfectly OK. I’m healthy. And I’m sane. And I live a happy life. Yet there is a problem with being asexual: As asexuality is known only poorly, it is often misunderstood and very often misjudged. And it is so diverse, so different from person to person, so wide and so fluid (just as any other sexual orientation) that taking a single testimonial (even if I’d love to give mine!) as a definition would lead to a constrained generalization.

So, yes, I will tell you how I have experienced asexuality.

-Let me say that I am asexual because of three main reasons:

1) I am not heterosexual
2) I am not homosexual
3) I am not bisexual

I am 4) Asexual. Asexuality is a sexual orientation… that defines the lack of sexual attraction (although I don’t feel I «lack» anything).

I do, however, have a romantic orientation: I’m hetero-romantic… asexual. I fall in love with men, but I have never, ever, experienced any kind of sexual attraction (the desire to engage in sexual activity) to men. Nor to women. Nor to both. This doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy sex, or that I despise it. I just have never felt the need for it. And that is OK.

(for the full story, click HERE)

(by Deviant Artist: CaptainEvie)

Pronouns make it hard to keep our sexual orientation a secret when our co-workers ask us about our weekend. “I had a great time with… them.” Great! Now they don’t think you’re queer - just a big slut!

- ~Judy Carter