KNOWhomo Nonfiction (a Moderator is currently reading)
LGBTQ* Family Moments You May Have Missed
Neil Patrick Harris, fiance David Burtka, and family Halloween photographs 2011-2013
LGBTQ* Quotes and Quips
Gloria E. Anzaldúa - Poet, Feminist, Woman of Color
*click on image for larger image*
LGBTQ* Thrifting — Moderator Style
Ruth Elizabeth and I spent most of the day thrifting, which in our world includes a lot of book/used book stores. The above photo was today’s finds (totaling under $21 for nine books).
Perk to living near DC? LGBTQ* used books are much easier to find. Additional perk? KNOWhomo updates in the very near future.
Keep On, Keeping On!
Books, Top to Bottom
LGBTQ* Reading List: Butch/Femme 101
Evolving in the 1940s, Butch and Femme are words with a lot of weight and power in queer culture. Ever wonder why some LGBTQ*-identified people get upset if straight women claim “Femme” as part of their identity? Want to join the (years-long) debate about whether a Butch/Femme relationship conforms to or subverts heteronormative gender roles? Not sure what the words really mean or where they came from in the first place? Brush up on your reading with these texts—and if they whet your appetite for knowledge, don’t forget to keep digging over at the Lesbrary or the Lesbian Herstory Archives.
1. Butch is a Noun, by S. Bear Bergman.
2. Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg.
3. Dagger: On Butch Women, edited by Lily Burana and Roxxie Linea Due.
4. The Persistent Desire, A Femme-Butch Reader, edited by Joan Nestle.
5. Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme, edited by Ivan E. Coyote and Zena Sharman.
6. Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America, by Lillian Faderman
7. Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity, edited by Chloe Brushwood Rose and Anna Camilleri.
8. Femmes of Power: Exploding Queer Femininities, edited by Del Lagrace Volcano and Ulrika Dahl
LGBTQ* KNOWhomo Posts We’re Revisiting
The American Library Association’s Banned Book Week is Back!
ALA’s 31st Celebration: 22 September - 28 September
LGBTQ* BANNED (!) or CHALLENGED (!) Books You Should Know
This week marks the 30th anniversary of the American Library Associations Banned Book Week Celebration (which celebrates and encourages you to read books which have been banned/challenged in local libraries and education, as well as educate yourself about censorship and printed media).
If you’d like more information, please check out ALA.org/bbooks
KNOWhomo & Keep On, Keeping On!
- 'And Tango Makes Three'
- 'Running With Scissors'
- 'Annie on my Mind'
- 'Howl and Other Poems'
- "Luv Ya Bunches"
- 'Revolutionary Voices'
- 'The Color Purple'
- 'Am I Blue?'
- 'The Perks of Being a Wallflower'
LGBTQ* Artists (You Should Know)
November 8, 1883 – October 23, 1935
Demuth was the leading force behind the technique Precisionism.
Georgia O’Keeffe was willed most of Demuth’s art upon his death.
The covers of Emile Zola’s Nana and Hanry James’ Turn of the Screw first printings contain his art work.
Demuth was fairly open about his homosexuality and commonly found at the Lafayette Baths. His self nude (nsfw) depicts some of his visits there.
**Additional Random Fact? Demuth developed diabetes later in life and was one of the first Americans to receive insulin.
KNOWhomo's Posts Worth Repeating:
LGBTQ* Insight, Education and Ally Conversations
From Oregon State
— Roommate Questions/Answers
(You may want to pass this on to RAs in conversation)
Questions for Roomates
In the residence halls
In a residence hall environment, we interact daily with a wide variety of people. Statistics have shown that at least 10% of the general population consider themselves to be lesbian or gay, and many more consider themselves to be bisexual. It is very likely that you will meet individuals who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT) during your time at OSU. This page was developed to hopefully answer some of the questions you may have. Remember, you may ask these questions of your Residence Life staff as well.
Why do they flaunt their sexuality?
“What people do in their own bedrooms is their own business, but I saw two guys walking across campus holding hands.”
One of the worst forms of oppression for a human being is to be denied emotional expression. Curiously, it is called “expressing love” when heterosexuals hold hands, but “flaunting” when LGBT people express their love. How would heterosexuals react if they could not hold hands, kiss, dance together, go to romantic dinners, or be married? LGBT people who are open with their affections are not trying to shock others, but are just doing what is natural to them and others.
What should I do if a friend tells me that he or she is gay? What does that say about me?
Most LGBT people who “come out” would like the same sincere acceptance and encouragement you might want when you tell a friend something special about yourself. Because of many people’s “homophobic” attitude (fear and derision of same sex relationships), many gays are afraid of rejection from their friends. You might first honestly ask yourself how you feel about this news and then discuss it as a caring friend.
Some people who find out a close friend is LGBT wonder “What does that mean about me?” This is a natural reaction. What it probably means is that your friend trusts you very much. However, liking someone gay does not make you gay any more than liking someone smart makes you smart.
If my roommate “comes out” to me, does that mean that he or she thinks that I’m gay too?
There is a big difference between “coming out” and “coming on.” As discussed above, most gay people who come out want to be accepted, not hassled. Sometimes a gay person might “come on” to you, tell you they are attracted to you, or want an intimate relationship with you. You can handle it in the same manner that you would handle a heterosexual approach. Gay love is as serious and legitimate as heterosexual love. Again, you should discuss it with your friend.
If I accept my LGBT roommate, will he or she bring in lots of LGBT friends and push me out?
A formerly taboo subject will be out in the open. You may feel uncomfortable from a lack of experience dealing with gay people who are not “closeted.” The LGBT friends should respect non-LGBT people just as LGBT people expect to be respected. Visits by LGBT folks are a good opportunity to learn about this large and diverse segment of the population. However, be cautious about presuming that all your roommate’s friends are LGBT. His or her best friends may be straight.
Won’t my friends or parents think I’m gay if I have a gay roommate or friend or defend equal rights?
Defending equal rights for gays is often a courageous stance to take. Some people may conclude that such a person has a vested interest to do so. It is up to you whether you feel that the people you are defending are worth the risk of occasional accusations or assumptions by others. Remember that a word from heterosexual friends and allies in defense or support of gay rights can go a long way to help change people’s minds.
Now that I know my roommate is gay, I don’t feel comfortable about nudity, dressing, showering, etc.
More than likely, you have been living together long enough to trust each other. There is no reason for the trust to diminish now. Your roommate has been gay or lesbian all along! Bear in mind that gays are not always comfortable with non-gays, either. Gay people, just like straight people, are attracted to certain types of folks. Most gays and lesbians are not sexually interested in heterosexuals, just as the reverse is true.
Know Your LGBTQ* Rights!
The thing about living in the United States is: not everything is mandated by the federal government. Some laws are left up to individual states and their constituents. Unfortunately, this means that not all states provide legal protection for you as an LGBTQ*-identified employee. In fact, in several US states, workplace rights and protections vary by county, or even by city. How frustrating and confusing is that? Have you checked on your rights lately?
States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination, and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation:
Delaware, Maryland, New Hampshire, New York, parts of Wisconsin.
States that prohibit bias in hiring, promotion, job assignment, termination, and compensation, as well as protection from harassment based on your sexual orientation AND your gender identity:
California, Colorado, Connecticut, the District of Colombia, Hawaii, Illinois, Iowa, Maine, Massachusetts, Minnesota, New Jersey, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon, Rhode Island, Vermont, Washington.
States where it is currently legal to discriminate based on an LGBTQ*-identity:
Alabama , Alaska , Arizona , Arkansas , Florida , Georgia , Idaho , Indiana , Kansas , Kentucky , Louisiana , Michigan , Mississippi , Missouri , Montana , Nebraska , North Carolina , North Dakota , Ohio, Oklahoma , Pennsylvania , South Carolina , South Dakota , Tennessee , Texas , Utah , Virginia , West Virginia , Wyoming.
Note From Ruth Elizabeth: Feeling as sick to your stomach as I am? Send a letter to your congress-person and tell them you want them to pass ENDA (the Employment Non-Discrimination Act). This would provide federal protection for discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, so you can stop googling your workplace rights every time you move cities, counties, or states.
"…when we excuse homophobia as a matter of opinion instead of treating it as a destructive social illness, we invite fear to explode into violence…If we are ever to scrape the black rot of prejudice from the heart of our nation, we must stop excusing those who give it expression and even excuse. The next time someone dares to say, "Just because I don’t approve of homosexuality doesn’t make me a bigot," we must all answer back, "Yes, it does. Not only does it make you a bigot, it makes you a criminal, a danger to me, my family, my community, my city, and my country."’
—Harvey Fierstein for HuffPost
LGBTQ*-Friendly Wedding Cards
Found in Georgetown’s Paper Source.
LGBTQ* News We’re Paying Attention To:
(following from NOLA)
Louisiana State University students Tuesday celebrated their first-ever Lavender Graduation, honoring accomplishments of LSU’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans-gender, queer and questioning population and their supporters. About 20 students walked across the stage in the Cotillion Ballroom at the Student Union in front of family and friends.
The ceremony, which is not a separate graduation but rather a presentation of a lavender stole, let students celebrate with peers as a member or supporter of the LGBTQ community…
The students will wear the lavender sashes when they accept their diplomas in the university’s official graduation ceremonies.
LGBTQ* Spoken Word You Might Be Interested In
*Warning: Lyrics NSFW*
“Am I a feminist or a womanist?
The student needs to know if I do men occasionally and primarily, am I a lesbian?
Tongue tied up in my cheek, I attempt to respond with some honesty.
Well, this business of Dykes and Dykery, I tell her, it’s often messy.
With social tensions as they are, you never quite know what you’re getting.
Girls who are only straight at night, hardcore butches be sporting dresses between 9 & 6 every day.
Sometimes she is a he, trapped by the limitations of our imaginations.
Primarily, I tell her, I am concerned about young women who are raped on college campuses, in bars, after poetry readings like this one, in bars.
Bruised lip and broken heart, you will forgive her if she does not come forward with the truth immediately, for when she does, it is she who will stand trial as damaged goods.
Everyone will say she asked for it, dressed as she was, she must have wanted it.
The words will knock about in her head: ” Harlot, slut, tease, loose woman” – some people can not handle a woman on the loose.
You know those women in pinstriped shirts and silk ties, You know those women in blood-red stiletto heels and short skirts.
These women make New York City the most interesting place.
And while we’re on the subject of diversity, Asia is not one big race, and there’s not one big country called ‘The Islands’, and no, I am not from there.
There are a hundred ways to slip between the cracks of our not so credible cultural assumptions about race and religion.
Most people are suprised that my father is Chinese.
Like there’s some kind of preconditioned look for the half-Chinese, lesbian poet who used to be Catholic, but now believes in dreams.
Let’s get real sister-boy in the double-x hooded sweatshirt.
That blonde-haired, blue-eyed Jesus in the Vatican ain’t right.
That motherfucker was Jewish, not white.
Christ was a middle-eastern rasta man who ate grapes in the company of prostitutes and he drank wine more than he drank water.
Born of the spirit, the disciples loved him in the flesh.
But the discourse is not on those of us who identify as gay or lesbian or even straight.
The state needs us to be either a clear left or right.
Those in the middle get caught in the cross – fire away at the other side.
If you are not for us, then you must be against us.
If you are not for us, then you must be against us.
People get scared enough, they pick a team.
Be it for Buddha or Krishna or Christ, I believe God is that place between belief and what you name it.
I believe holy is what you do when there is nothing between your actions and the truth.
The truth is I’m afraid to draw your black lines around me, I’m not always pale in the middle, I come in too many flavors for one f***ing spoon.
I am never one thing or the other.
At night I am everything I fear, tears and sorrows, black windows and muffled screams.
In the morning, I am all I ever want to be: rain and laughter, bare footprints and invisible seams, always without breath or definition.
I claim every single dawn, for yesterday is simply what I was, and tomorrow even that will be gone.”
LGBTQ* Artists You Should Know: Robert Giard (1939-2002)
Particular Voices: Portraits of Gay and Lesbian Writers
(following from the Robert Giard Foundation)
In 1985, after attending a performance of Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart—one of the first dramas dealing with the impact of AIDS on gay life—Robert Giard decided to devote his energies as a photographer to some aspect of the gay and lesbian community. Thus was born his two-decade long project of photographing over 600 gay and lesbian writers—from famous playwrights to emerging novelists to unsung poets and pioneering performance artists.
Particular Voices: Portraits of Gay & Lesbian Writers is an extraordinary visual record of the flowering of queer voices in the wake of the Stonewall Rebellion and the AIDS crises, while also paying homage to many earlier 20th Century activists and writers who had urged the creation of a community identity, or otherwise gave public voice to gay and lesbian sensibilities.
(Photos, clockwise, beginning from upper left: Ann Bannon, Robert Howard, Kitty Tsui, and Adrienne Rich.)
**Note from Ruth Elizabeth:
The winner of a Lambda Literary Award in 1997, 182 of these portraits are collected in a book also titled Particular Voices: Portraits of Gay and Lesbian Writers, alongside excerpts of each writer’s work carefully chosen together by Giard and the writers themselves. GORGEOUS.